
Have you noticed that as you move closer and closer toward your most self-actualised, soul-aligned self, you start to see that every personal risk you’ve taken and every Boardroom environment you’ve chosen to be part of has shaped you? Not just through what was said, but through what was tolerated, suppressed, avoided, danced around, and the quiet truth of whether you were authentically aligned or painfully misaligned. I have.
You might have noticed I’ve gone a little quiet with my thought leadership over the past few weeks. Nothing dramatic happened — but something quieter, and much more important, did. A couple of weeks ago, I realised something significant:
Sometimes we step on people’s feelings without realising it. We assume if it really mattered, they’d say something. Often, they don’t. You feel the shift — shorter answers, cooler tone, less warmth. Sometimes they ghost. Sometimes it leaks out sideways in little revenge jabs. This is where it gets risky — inside and outside the Boardroom. When emotions go unspoken, they start making the decisions instead of us.
When I was a baby governance professional, I didn’t just work hard — I wore everyone else’s stuff. Every anxious email. Every “urgent” scramble for a last-minute Board paper. Every sideways glance in a meeting. I took it all on. I fixed chaos that wasn’t mine, carried work I didn’t own, and smiled while my nervous system did backflips. It served everyone else. Me? Not so much.